Everyone has, what I call, unconscious limiting patterns. They exist as something we are not consciously aware of, or find ourselves unable to understand their cause and how to change them! For example, if someone is constantly feeling inadequate, they may not know what the cause is or where the feeling is originating from.
Learning your unconscious limiting patterns is so important for your personal and spiritual growth. The more you understand them, the more you can move more into your full potential. Here are a few common examples that may resonate with you:
Low self-esteem: Feeling less than, a looser, or inadequate. Maybe you’ve worked on this pattern in counseling and/or with positive intention. But it still remains, no matter what books you read.
People pleaser: Feeling like you always have to fix everything and everybody or like you have to make sure everyone is happy. You intellectually know that it is not your job, but you cannot help yourself. And you cannot stop doing for others.
Emotional swings: Experiencing anger that raises quickly or feels like it is always bubbling beneath the surface. Or it can be another emotion, like feeling rejected, lonely, or overlooked - that is a continual driving force in your daily life.
Your patterns may look different than these examples, but above all know that you are not alone. One client told me, “I knew something was wrong. I just didn’t know what it was or what to do about it. It has been haunting me.” That is the power of your unconscious limiting patterns.
The definition of power is: (1) The possession or control over others. (2) A person or thing that possesses influence.
If unconscious patterns have power, then they have control over you and influence your behavior, thoughts, and emotions. If they have power, where does that leave you? Powerless; which means: “Unable to produce an effect – ineffective.” This is very limiting.
How do these patterns have power over you? Because you are not conscious of them and are not consciously choosing them. However they exist and rule your emotional and thought reactions. Additionally, they can further attract unwanted situations, reinforcing the power of these patterns. The unconscious inside of you can limit your life, health, and all aspects of you.
Part of their power, lies in their ability to hold a tight grip. In the past, you probably tried to change your unwanted situations at the surface level, but they continue (because they exist below the surface). This inability to affect change can feel depressing – like you are stuck, hopeless, and yes, powerless.
There is hope! First, understand what these patterns are and how they came about. Unconscious patterns are buried deep within us at a cellular level. They are so embedded within our body’s cells that they are not easy to identify or shake!
Although we think of ourselves as one person – we are comprised of many selves. The unconscious or body self, the subconscious or emotional self (which includes your inner child), the conscious or mental self (which includes your ego), and the superconscious or higher spiritual self. Each of these many aspects of you can hold on to hidden beliefs, fears, resistance, and low self-esteem.
To fully remove your unconscious limiting patterns, it requires us to comb through all our aspects of self to uncover what is buried. This takes time and diligence – and it is okay to need outside help! I work intimately and successfully with all aspects in private client sessions. Understanding what is buried inside of you, is the first step to turning this around and moving yourself into empowerment!
I encourage you to learn more and continually educate yourself about the role unconscious limiting patterns are playing in your life.
If you would like to take that first step towards learning more, I offer a free 30- minute phone consultation. This is where I would be happy to explain patterns as they relate to you and your experiences. There is no obligation after the consultation. Education is important for our growth, health, and spirituality. It would be my pleasure to spend time with you.
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