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The Power & Healing of Allowing
I Allow Me to
Missed part 1?
Read it here.
In last month’s article we discussed the
spiritual importance of allowing others to be how they are,
regardless of your personal opinion on their choices. This article
covers how it is equally important to allow yourself the ability to
express your true self.
It takes a conscious effort to
embrace an allowing that lets you express your true self, while
choosing to make yourself a priority. It can be difficult, as we may
put others first for so many reasons. Common reasons can vary from a
fear of rejection, a need for love and acceptance, a fear of being
hurt, a reason rooted in lack of self-esteem, and so much more. Each
person’s reasons may be different, but the result is the same.
Allowing yourself to be a priority is an important step to
If you have experienced a co-dependent
relationship, you have an understanding of how it’s possible to hang
your feelings of self-worth on another. For the person being cared
for or told what to do, they never develop the need or motivation to
grow into the empowered, dynamic person that is a reflection of who
they spiritually are. For the person who is care-taking and
demanding, they will deplete their energies and there will never be
time to reach their full potential. They are too busy focusing on
others or things outside of self to spend meaningful time with their
Both parties need to learn why their self-image
or emotional needs are wrapped up in this habit way of being.
Neither side is healthy, especially long-term – and it can often
take tough love and determination to change and allow your true self
shine through. Each person has to learn to take responsibility and
learn how to express their truest being.
inviting in change: Use this exercise by stilling yourself
and then asking your heart these questions. It may be helpful to
journal your answers. Don’t rush the questions, allow them to bubble
from deep inside for honest answers.
Are you prone to
being dependent? Why do I habitually defer to another for
their direction? Why do I place their opinion about what is right
for me over my own? Why do I allow someone to bail me out or be in
charge of me?
Acknowledge how your beliefs and self-image are
subconsciously wrapped up in this pattern of being. Try to uncover
the root that is driving this pattern whether is it feelings of
being less than, fear of failure, avoidance of responsibility, or
something else that is preventing you from following you heartfelt
Are you prone to being in charge?
Why do I have this need to take over someone else’s choices and
actions? Why can’t I trust that their choice is valid? Why do I feel
my way is always better?
Acknowledge how your beliefs and
self-image are subconsciously wrapped up in this pattern of being.
Find the root of the pattern whether it feels like a requirement for
love, a shield for knowing yourself better, a desire to always be in
control, or something else that is preventing you from following you
Whatever you discover in either
scenario, make a commitment to change. Work towards change with
small decisions and living in the moment evaluating your choices.
Let your choices be conscious ones instead of pattern-driven auto
pilot. This is how you lay the groundwork to become all you are
meant to be!
The real you, the spiritual divine being inside
of your body, has all the knowledge, skills, and wisdom needed to be
successful in all areas of your life. These patterns are limitations
that develop over time and prevent the real you from being present.
We can fully allow our real selves into the present when we are able
to remove our built up limitations.
As you move towards
allowing your true self to be present, you may discover a new
dilemma. Where does the line between being frozen without forward
movement and forcing movement into the world lie? How astute are you
at allowing the world unfold? It can take practice to understand
what allowing feels like, but if you embrace the rigid energies of
frozen/force it is impossible for the flow of abundance, healing, or
a loving relationship to enter.
It is important to move out
of frozen/force and into the flow of allowing. Once you do, God and
the Universe bring wonderful gifts. These gifts are often out of
reach when you try so hard to make things or yourself be a certain
way. Allow yourself to be how you need to be in each moment, it is
the highest, best, and most peaceful way to live. It brings balance
and harmony to all.
Allow yourself to be restructured. Don’t
fight or resist these changes, but embrace them fully. Encourage all
parts of self to allow the changes to happen: ‘I am empowered. I
have what it takes to be successful. I put myself first. I love and
embrace myself, even when I make a mistake.’ (We all make
mistakes; it is why all our devices have a delete button!)
Allowing your inner-self to be outwards isn’t easy to accomplish, in
fact it is a spiritual mastery point. Even if the concept feels easy
– it requires time, focus, and commitment to operate from this type
of personal allowing on a daily basis. Know that it is possible and
worth the commitment. If you are serious about changing your
patterns and are motivated to monitor yourself, you will love the
self-confidence, freedom, and joy that comes when you allow yourself
the ability to express your true self.
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