Negativity: Should I avoid or
I used to think the best course of
action was to avoid all negativity and surround myself with
peace and balance each day. This was the way of being I embraced
in my life.
Why would someone knowingly expose themselves
to negative or fearful people, situations, and movies? Fear
plays havoc within the body, which ultimately causes health
For several years, I lived with this approach. I
was successful at keeping myself in peace and harmony most all
of the time.
Then, I was guided to energetically help
transform negative power structures, systems, organizations, and
people on this planet to a higher level. To accomplish this I
needed to expose myself to their energies. Wow! It wasn’t
extreme, but the feelings of fear, anger, and vulnerability were
a new part of my life.
I thought, “How could this be,
when I already worked through all of this.” Nevertheless, here
it was back again. What I learned was that there was a higher
spiritual purpose to witness in both the negative and positive
aspects of life. The goal is to do so without judgment or
It is a posture of not avoiding the
negative, but instead experiencing it, embracing it, or
witnessing it when it enters your life experience. It is truly a
higher level of self-mastery.
A lot of us witness
financial and political events, only to be constantly spun up in
feelings of anger, disappointment, and futility. A lot of us
also avoid all of it; keeping safe in our cocoons.
here to live and experience life, not to shield ourselves from
it. The secret is to have emotional detachment while honoring
all, even those who are playing a negative role. All are a part
of the process of growth and understanding.
it: The best teachers in life are those that gave us the most
negative experiences – offering a catalyst for our growth. It
isn’t about seeking negative experiences, but instead it is
about not turning away from negativity when it enters our
experience either directly or through what we witness (in
person, movies, internet, books, etc).
What I teach in
my workshops and ongoing spiritual groups is to bless those who
seem to be creating negativity, pain, or disrespect. They are
also on this planet, having their own human experience. Bless
them and their journey. Moreover, put it into perspective –
bless yourself that your journey is yours and not theirs – so to
We are all one - the good, the bad, and the ugly –
as the saying goes. Maybe a person or institution who
increasingly does harm is spiritually present to wake us up.
Maybe they are mirroring something for us to learn. Maybe they
are just a soul, like you and me, who is struggling.
This does not mean that we condone abusive behaviors. It means
blessing the soul within that person or institution. We do not
hold judgments towards them, allowing them to be as they need to
Step out to allow yourself to witness and experience
the ‘bad’ as well as the ‘good’ when it shows up in your life.
Try to no longer avoid it. Allow it to be there without any
judgment or emotional attachment. When you do, you move to a
higher level of self mastery and spiritual growth - experiencing
I bless myself; I bless those who appear negative.
We are all part of the same mosaic. The mosaic to bring about
change and uplift our quality and way of life.
blessings to you. Love - Alice
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