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Show Yourself Love this Valentine’s Day
The most important relationship you have
is with yourself. Yet as a society, we seldom extend love to
ourselves. Rather, we exclusively focus our efforts on our
relationships with others.
One of the best ways to show love to your self is by
others. You might believe that forgiving is just being kind to the
other person(s), as they are the one(s) who hurt, ignored, or judged
you. However, this is only partially true. Forgiveness is really an
act of self-love, more so than being an expression of love for
hold on to negative, fear based thoughts and emotions, the memory of
them can become buried in your cells as dense, dark, heavy energy.
This weighs you down, and overtime can cause imbalance and
disharmony, which can ultimately lead to disease. When you feel hurt
by someone, you experience the negative emotions like anger or
sadness. If you don’t forgive, all of that negativity becomes buried
in your body, not theirs. It is actually doing more harm to you than
it does to the other person.
If you are like most people, you often intentionally or
unintentionally hold a grudge towards others. Sometimes a grudge can
be held for years. Meanwhile, the person you are determined not to
forgive is feeling no pain. By clinging to your inability to forgive
or choosing to retain the past, your body becomes denser and heavier
about ‘them’ and start thinking about you! It is paramount for your
health that YOU release this dynamic. Completely let go of the issue
or person through forgiveness, along with releasing any associated
reactions from your perception of the hurt, anger, fear, or
betrayal. Doing this is truly an act of love for you and your body!
There are other negative
repercussions of not forgiving:
1. The build-up of negativity from resentment, limits something new
from entering. We’ve all heard sayings like ‘close one door to open
another’ or ‘get rid of the old, to make way for the new.’ Ever
wonder why your intentions aren’t manifesting? Maybe there isn’t any
space or opening for the new to reside? Perhaps you are limiting the
foundation of love-based emotions necessary for positive
manifestation, by allowing negative energy to accumulate inside of
2. An increasing loss
of energy, harmony, or health. This isn’t a conscious choice, but
the negativity takes its toll on all parts of you.
3. An inhibiting effect on your intuition, wisdom, knowing, and your
connection with God.
unforgiving (consciously, subconsciously, or unconsciously) is just
not healthy for you emotionally, physically, mentally, or
spiritually. It is important to conduct an inventory of all who you
have not forgiven in your life. Review all those who may have hurt
you from childhood to present time. Write down each of their names
and how they hurt you. Then add how you felt about it, for example:
“I felt sad, angry, or disappointed.”
After you have listed them all, start the process of reviewing them
one by one. Forgive each of them in your heart and soul. Release
them to God with a big inhale and exhale. Take the time to focus on
your associated emotions. Then release them as well. This process
does not have to be done all at once, try doing a few names each
don’t forget yourself. It is often harder to forgive yourself, but I
encourage you to go through the same process on your own behalf.
Review the times you may have hurt yourself or someone else, or the
times when you did not feel good about your actions or decisions.
Then fully forgive yourself.
This entire exercise is very healing, and is truly an act of
self-love. The best part is that you will no longer be operating
with that old worn out ‘unforgiving’ energy. Forgiveness is always
transformational to the person engaging in it, you will really feel
yourself this month in honor of Valentine’s Day - engage in
forgiveness and feel its loving power.
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